Can dads go through Menopause?

Editted: The problem is not about the cupboard its something even bigger.

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I think my Dad is menopausal. I wish he was still working so that he won't be in half the time. The house would be less uptight. My mom is a pretty carefree woman who reasons.
What my dad does, is say an automatic "No" to whatever you're about to say. Because you see, he thinks he is very smart and that another persons idea is just not feasible. He is narrow minded and very blind.
He doesn't allow me to buy a cupboard and to throw away my table that is about 9 years old. He doesn't have a reason. Because he really actually doesn't Have a fucking reason in his head. I told him I was going to pay for everything. He told me he doesn't want me to renovate my room earlier this year, he still didn't make much sense to me and since I can't really have much say in this because I don't have the money, then fine.
But this $100 ikea cupboard that I'm going to pay for, he says no to it. He said its too flimsy. I told him a friend has it and it's fine. And what the fuck he said " Just because your friend has it, you don't have to have it"
I really wanted to rip off my hair. I've always wanted that fucking cheapo cupboard that is pretty fucking sturdy even before my "friend" who is actually my sister has it.
I tried to explain to him and all he said was " You better not do anything"
I really don't know why I'm so angry and I've not cried in months and I don't know why this is the first.

Maybe it's because he has been absent all my life so I don't feel like he gets to have a say in it. And that's why I don't get along with my dad. Even when we're on good terms, there'll always be this invisble barrier that makes talking awkward. I hate it sometimes but I've come to realise why it's there. I just really want to get out of this fuck hole. Or I want him to go back to work, that's what he is good at besides cooking and filling the house with noise.

If it's not for my mom, I would've been set as an accountant since I was born. Because of her, I'll hopefully get a new walcom tablet with my dads disapproval ( he thinks it isn't a necessity. It isn't. So is learning new things right- that isn't a necessity. We can always be satisfied with what we have and be fucking grateful Right right. But that is why people stay at the bottom, because they don't want to budge. If given an opportunity to learn something new, then seize it. ) He still wants me to be an accountant. He is pretty much like Nelly Kee. But like what I said to her " Just because I don't talk to you and tell you things, doesn't mean I don't do shit and it doesn't mean I'm not passionate about what I do. It just means that I don't like talking to you about my shit"